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<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tirrem @ Jan 2 2007, 04:30 PM) [snapback]138181[/snapback][/center]
But using the 80 sick hours doesnt punish him. Why should you use up your time for something he did. Your being to nice of a guy already. Theres a point where you have to stop and ask yourself who is more important you or the other guy, I know it might sound selfish, but if the guy is as nice as you say he is he would understand.
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Yeah, that was exactly what I was trying to say.

You are still using up your "sick" days for something inflicting on you by someone else on purpose. This is not like you got into a car accident and it was no ones fault.
 
This is probably old now, but Im going to respond anyway. Anyone who can push a glass in someones face is not a "friend", at least not one you want. You need to press charges. Even if you think it isnt costing anything financially, you are going to have scars, especially the one on your nose that are going to be there forever. Most cosmetic reconstruction methods out there are NOT free to take care of any scars remaining. And if you are going to miss work, your boss needs to know what happened, that it was completely not your fault. And believe me, they will want to know they have a loose cannon on their staff that is prone to uncontrolled, rage fuelled outbursts. It doesnt matter if he says he is sorry, its not enough, he needs to face the consequences of his actions. Pressing charges will hopefully get him some help with his anger management. Like someone said above, dont be the martyr, you need to stand up for your interests first and foremost.
 
I went to the docs today... got stitches out (damn that hurt like a son of a bitch) and was informed that I'm to be off work for two more weeks.

I've told my boss what happened and she's told the appropriate people at work... I just didn't use names.
 
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I went to the docs today... got stitches out (damn that hurt like a son of a bitch) and was informed that I'm to be off work for two more weeks.

I've told my boss what happened and she's told the appropriate people at work... I just didn't use names.
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Glad to hear you are getting better.

Oh, and I am glad you told work what happened. Not using names was classy too.
 
Here's the healing process kinda:

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No I haven't combed my hair in about 3 weeks and I'm proud of it... I did shave though. :P

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Glad to hear you are getting better.

Oh, and I am glad you told work what happened. Not using names was classy too.
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Yah right now I don't want to cause any issues... my boss is smart enough to guess who it is, but she won't do that.
 
First, Im so sorry...hope you are doing okay... :hug: And my reply is way late :P
If he is a good person, a good friend at work and he admitted he was wrong, and he is taking full responsability, why press charges? He should pay for the damage imho.

I never got the part about pressing charge against friends. If they are truely your friend, and have made a mistake, no way I'd press charges as long as they tried to make amends, make it all good. Everyone does real stupid things at some point in their life, everyone makes mistakes.

 
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First, Im so sorry...hope you are doing okay... :hug: And my reply is way late :P
If he is a good person, a good friend at work and he admitted he was wrong, and he is taking full responsability, why press charges? He should pay for the damage imho.

I never got the part about pressing charge against friends. If they are truely your friend, and have made a mistake, no way I'd press charges as long as they tried to make amends, make it all good. Everyone does real stupid things at some point in their life, everyone makes mistakes.


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That's the concern I was having. But I realized that there's no way in hell I'd purposely take a glass and smash it into any of my friends faces. I've been in fist fights with friends and that's where it stops. He completely blindsided me with a glass to the face.
 
Good call I think. I would never want to remain friends with someone who could do something like that. And I think someone with anger management issues like that has to get in trouble to make them learn they have a problem. At least he didn't ruin someone's life this time, but next time might be different so it's best he learns a lesson now.
 
Those are going to end in some seriously not so nice scar's :(

To be honest if I was in your shoes, I'd be totally unsure, but that might be because it's hard to imagine your feelings right now on what to do, guess it depends how good a friend he was in the first place.

Saying that, I do agree with what majority of everyone else has said here, that your "friend" needs to in some way or another make serious amends for what he did to you.

Think it's beside the point if the medical costs are already taken care of, without it costing you, those scars could last a lifetime.

Thinking of not just about you for a second, you got to wonder, if this sort of unneccessary/unprovoked and overuse of violence isn't going to happen to someone else, who doesn't come away without fatal injuries.
As someone else mentioned, He might well have an anger problem, and that he needs to deal with that with proffessional help.
 
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That's the concern I was having. But I realized that there's no way in hell I'd purposely take a glass and smash it into any of my friends faces. I've been in fist fights with friends and that's where it stops. He completely blindsided me with a glass to the face.
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I can understand that. But then, is he a true friend? What does your gut tell you? What feels right for you?
No one else can really say what's right or wrong, because you are the only one that knows the whole story and the whole situation.
Listen to your own gut feeling.

Just, pressing charges is not familiar to me.
(It's not really something that happens that often over here in Sweden, especially not in the same way as in the States from what I understand)
 
I'm not american Zana :P

Basically by pressing charges I mean making a statement to the police. They do all the charges and whatnot.
 
I have to say its a good thing you took pictures that chronicle your injuries from begining to now...good if it goes before a judge. Glad you are healing well :)
 
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I'm not american Zana :P

Basically by pressing charges I mean making a statement to the police. They do all the charges and whatnot.
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Oh doh, I knew that :P
 
Also the scars should fade a bit in time, but you may want to look into laser resurfacing or something like that, and make him pay for it. I recently went to a laser clinic for some scarring I had, and its pretty much gone, for me it was like $50 a session (x3), but it was only a about a 1.5 inch scar. At least go for a consultation somewhere and find out how much it would cost, and sue him.
 
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took you ages to make the right decision when it was obvious!
 
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