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Ackis

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Hey everyone... I had an... incident last night.

I was at a "buddies" house and ended up getting a glass smashed into my face.

Long story short, I lost a lot of blood (my pants were so soaked I thought I had pissed myself), have between 40-50 stitches in multiple cuts in my face, and I'll have a lot of scaring once things are said and done.

The question is... pressing charges.

Unprovoked attack (unless if you count pushing a wheelchair into a couch ripping a small hole in the couch provocation) and it could've been a lot worse (cuts all over my face, could've easily lost an eye), however the guy that did this was a good buddy of mine from work, and he maned up to it, and once he realized how bad it was took me to the hospital, and took responsibility for everything.

There's a lot of ramifications... I work with this guy, not directly but in the same organization and he could lose his job over it if charges are filed... plus he could go to jail. He usually is a nice guy... basically I don't know what the fuck to do. =/

Advice?

I will post pics (when waiting in the hospital, camera phones = fun) eventually :P just so you can all see my pretty face now. Took the doctor 2.5 hours to do all the stitches. Heh go me?
 
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I would put it into a written agreement that he will pay for all of your medical bills, and any damage as a result of the injury. That way if he doesn't go in accordance with it, you can sue him.

Make sure you document exactly how much all your bills are.
 
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I would put it into a written agreement that he will pay for all of your medical bills, and any damage as a result of the injury. That way if he doesn't go in accordance with it, you can sue him.

Make sure you document exactly how much all your bills are.
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Ackis lives in Canada, no? Medical bills will be trivial, if there's anything at all.

Whatever you think of this guy, Ackis, he needs to learn to control himself. Ask yourself what sort of punishment will allow you to move on, but at least see that he gets some anger management counselling.
 
Yah I'm Canadian... there will be no medical bills. I'm missing next week of work, and hopefully the week after that as well.

It's just complex because I know he didn't mean to do it... well do as much damage.

If I press charges, there's a lot at stake... his job, jail time, etc... I just really don't know.
 
im confused as to what happened. did you rip a couch and thats what got him pissed and caused him to do that to you?
 
The wheelchair put a hole in teh couch smaller than an inch... that's what set him off... it wasn't an intentional thing either... still really confused about the whole thing
 
Sounds to me like he needs to get some serious angermanagment counsiling. Either that or spend a few days in jail. Sucks that he could loose his job but considering the injurys and the fact that youll have some nasty scars he needs some kind of punishment.
 
Ackis,

I keep missing you on IM.

Dude, that sucks.

Hope you heal up fast.

If you need anything hit me up.

I would definitely make him pay something; friend or not.
 
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Ackis lives in Canada, no? Medical bills will be trivial, if there's anything at all.

Whatever you think of this guy, Ackis, he needs to learn to control himself. Ask yourself what sort of punishment will allow you to move on, but at least see that he gets some anger management counselling.
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Agree, on top of that, you probably shouldn't be "friends" with the dude anymore. co-worker/friend/whatever, he could have done some serious permanent damage to you (think loss of vision, or the like).

Even if he "manned" up to it, he still needs to have consequences for his actions. Think about time missed from work, and think about what your work culture will be like around him (and others) after the fact. This wasn't a punch thrown in anger, this is a shitload more serious than that.

What is going to happen at work when they ask you why you will miss time? What do you say? You probably need it formally documented somehow because if he does it again, to you or someone else, you can use the documentation to show a pattern of behavior and get the guy out of the workplace. It might be a bigger problem than you realize.
 
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What is going to happen at work when they ask you why you will miss time? What do you say? You probably need it formally documented somehow because if he does it again, to you or someone else, you can use the documentation to show a pattern of behavior and get the guy out of the workplace. It might be a bigger problem than you realize.
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I don't know... that's what I'm struggling with. =/
 
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I don't know... that's what I'm struggling with. =/
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Don't be the martyr on this. Your employer is going to want to know why you will miss a week of work cause you were in the hospital getting your face put back together. You are most likely to need to tell them what happened at a minimum. Don't just say, "oh, I fell down some stairs or something", cause they will think you are hiding something or your are just stupid.

You need to think about how this will effect YOU at work, not just him. Trying to protect him (again you might be protecting someone who has done it before) will only cause you grief and uncomfortable-ness at the workplace. Don't put yourself in that situation, nothing good will come of it.

Are you going to at least have him compensate you for the time you are going to miss for work? (Since medical costs are negligible)
 
I've got something like 80 sick days for "long-term" incidents at work (if you play the system right I don't think you have to work at all during the year lol) so I don't have any out of pocket costs.
 
But using the 80 sick hours doesnt punish him. Why should you use up your time for something he did. Your being to nice of a guy already. Theres a point where you have to stop and ask yourself who is more important you or the other guy, I know it might sound selfish, but if the guy is as nice as you say he is he would understand.
 
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