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Timi

Timi

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Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid.
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Timi @ Dec 15 2005, 08:13 PM) [snapback]12735[/snapback][/center]
Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid.
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Go for it...

Whether you fail or succeed, if you don't even try you will regret it for sure...
 
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Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid.
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i don't think you'd be bringing her down a bit, pal. personally i think there's no reason for you to be intimidated. i think, and keep in mind this is just MY opinion, so if you don't want to hear it don't listen, that you should at the very least take her accomplishments as motivation and encouragement to do great things yourself. Don't focus on trying to match her accomplishments, but instead take her accomplishments as a lesson that ordinary people can achieve great things, and then go out into your own world and achieve some greatness for yourself, you know? something you can be proud of.

and once you're happy with who you are (which may already be the case), then work on shaping something with her. Just don't base your friendship/relationship on your "scores" compared to hers. That just makes out for a full out competitive process, and that can take the fun away from anything you two might share together. Just be yourself, and don't strive to "be her". If the possibility of a relationship between the two of you is there at all, it is based on who she is, and who you are, not who the two of you can be, or based on what you might achieve. Anything based on one person's expectations of another is destined for failure, or at the least, unhappiness and hardships. Just be yourself to her, and if that's not good enough, than she's better off as a friend, and nothing more.

To put it all in a nutshell, just be yourself, and be happy with that, because if youre not happy with it, she'll never be.

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Just be yourself, and don't strive to "be her".
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That is, don't strive to be better than her...

And by the way, killer avatar.
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Timi @ Dec 15 2005, 10:13 PM) [snapback]12735[/snapback][/center]
Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid. [/b]
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lol I wished you lived around here, because you wouldn't even question dating her or approaching her. The guys up here haven't even tried to achieve 1/2 of what you have. They are lazy little creatons that slouch around and up with these nice, sweet, successful women. Does what job you have matter? Not really, unless you are 40 and work the counter at TacoBell. Do you have to dazzle women with what you have accomplished in life? No. Mainly women look for a good, loving guy that is stable and has the qualities that would make up a bestfriend. Go for it :P
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Timi @ Dec 15 2005, 10:13 PM) [snapback]12735[/snapback][/center]
Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid.
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Definitely go for it. Don?t feel like you need to surpass her and definitely don?t be intimidated by her. And you should swallow you pride for a few months, because if it works out you will find that you are as proud or even more proud of her achievements as your own.
 
Thanks ladies and gents....tomorrow we are going to spend an entire day together and will be touring DC because she wants some pics while shes on leave (which i have no objections to). I'll let you all know on Sat how everything goes and will be taking the advice you all gave into stride.

Yes, I'm a guy that could have a gun against my head and I'd rock that asshole's life, but put me next to a gorgeous girl and I'm the biggest wuss you could ever imagine.
 
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Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid.
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Just do it Timi, every guy dreams of a sugar momma. Be like me :) Though I shoot better than my wife..
 
In the words of Hitch "Any man can sweep any woman off her feet, just gotta use the right broom". Go for it man, just treat her like she deserves to be treated. Show her how much you appreciate her and the worst that could happen is a no, I know it sounds like a lot but whats one word compared to a lifetime of regret?

Hey man, I honestly don't think I've good looking at all and my ex gf's for the most part have been hotties. Confidence and assertiveness is all it takes man, don't be shy around her. Make it known you like her and go for it.
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(LilHammie @ Dec 16 2005, 01:18 AM) [snapback]12796[/snapback][/center]
Hey man, I honestly know I'm a ugly mofo and my ex gf's for the most part have been illegal immigrant hotties who don't know what the hell I'm saying anyway.
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FIXED! :P
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Ianril @ Dec 16 2005, 07:01 PM) [snapback]12807[/snapback][/center]
FIXED! :P
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Now that my friend is JEALOUSY. Don't hate on me cause Trandos > Wooks. Its not my fault you're a slave.
 
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Now that my friend is JEALOUSY. Don't hate on me cause Trandos > Wooks. Its not my fault you're a slave.
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Trandos remind me of that guy on Enemy Mine with Dennis Quaid... Do you guys do it with yourselves to procreate as well? I bet you do. I know you do. Don't lie. As far as a slave... i'm a slave in a good way. Handcuffs FTW!!!
 
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Trandos remind me of that guy on Enemy Mine with Dennis Quaid... Do you guys do it with yourselves to procreate as well? I bet you do. I know you do. Don't lie. As far as a slave... i'm a slave in a good way. Handcuffs FTW!!!
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Good or bad slave, you're still my bitch :D
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(LilHammie @ Dec 16 2005, 04:26 AM) [snapback]12818[/snapback][/center]
Good or bad slave, you're still my bitch :D
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Fine, I succumb to your leatherness. /licknastyfeet
 
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Fine, I succumb to your leatherness. /licknastyfeet [/b]
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woah thats kinda gross to wake up to in the morning
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Timi @ Dec 16 2005, 01:13 PM) [snapback]12735[/snapback][/center]
Got a girl I like.

Problem....Ive known her for a few years and in the time that has passed she is an Iraqi vet (props)....and very ambitious...wants to become a cop and a governor. Shes exceded anything I could have hoped to do in a lifetime and I'm a little intimidated.....hell when I was in the police force i scored sharp shooter (next down from expert) and she has already scored expert in the military. Am I silly to be intimidated and just look past it or am I too over my head? These are things im tossing with, I'm not sure what I should do.

What it comes down to, I should swallow my pride, but I'm a stubborn person and proud of the few things I've accomplished in life, but not sure if I would be bringing her down or if I'm just being stupid.
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all i can say is go for it because you have nothing to lose but alot to gain
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Timi @ Dec 16 2005, 03:07 PM) [snapback]12778[/snapback][/center]
Thanks ladies and gents....tomorrow we are going to spend an entire day together and will be touring DC because she wants some pics while shes on leave (which i have no objections to). I'll let you all know on Sat how everything goes and will be taking the advice you all gave into stride.

Yes, I'm a guy that could have a gun against my head and I'd rock that asshole's life, but put me next to a gorgeous girl and I'm the biggest wuss you could ever imagine.
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Apply the confidence you have shown in your own life and you should be fine :) Personally I like people who are confident and strong.............like me :) this one sounds like a keeper :)


Because its winter in DC stop by the national christmas tree.....every year I was in DC i went to see it beautiful especially at night. ;)
 
Timi, we cannot help you with this. the only thiong that can is what your heart tells you. What your head makes cloudy, your heart makes very clear. Obviusly you like her and care for her. She has goals and ambitions, but you should look at that as a very good thing. you're not in over your head IMO. She sounds like she'd be good for you. If it doesnt work out what have you lost? But if it does work, you have everything to gain.
 
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Rankin @ Dec 17 2005, 04:27 AM) [snapback]13084[/snapback][/center]
Play your cards right and you could be her Chief of Staff or something when she's the governor ;)
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Yeah play your cards right and you can be her president...

/laughs at Rankin

When you ask her out, if she says yes. First date if you decide to buy her flowers, don't buy roses. Roses stand for love, though it doesn't seem like something big. Its the mindset they bring. Start it off with flowers, but not roses. Just my opinion.
 
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